HELP! I'M ADDICTED TO REALITY TV

by Dennis Hensley

 

As the owner of his own bookstore in Union Hill, New Jersey, Joe Leo, 32, spends his days in the company of time-honored storytellers like Dickens, Faulkner and Hemmingway. His nights are another story. “Monday’s Joe Millionaire,” he starts. “Tuesday’s American Idol, Wednesday’s were The Bachelorette and Celebrity Mole. Now we have Survivor and Are You Hot on Thursdays…”

Meanwhile, in a high rise in Hollywood, associate casting director Beth Blanks, 27, is rifling through actors’ headshots and opening up about her obsession with High School Reunion, The Surreal Life and The Real World/Road Rules Challenge. “I feel a little guilty because, in a way, these shows take away from us being able to hire actors,” she admits, “but I have to watch. I can’t miss it.”

Have to watch? Can’t miss? You don’t have to be the groundskeeper at Promises Malibu to see that this is the language of addiction. “Addicted isn’t even the right word,” scoffs Tony Tripoli, 33, a children’s gymnastics teacher from North Hollywood, California who religious Survivor Tivo-er. “Some days, that’s the only reason I get out of bed.”

“I barely leave the house anymore,” echoes comedian Kathy Griffin, who recently spun her longtime reality obsession into gold by walking off with the $233,000 grand prize on Celebrity Mole Hawaii. “I’m up to 18 hours of TV a day but hey, I can sleep when I’m dead. I’m a Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here is only on now!”

While Kathy, Tony, Beth and Joe’s preoccupations with such things as rose ceremonies, tribal counsels and bushtucker trials may strike some as frivolous and unhealthy, the good news is that they’re not alone. Case in point: Approximately 42 million viewers—just shy of Oscar numbers--tuned into the finale of Joe Millionaire to see Evan Marriott attempt to have as much on-screen chemistry with Zora Andrich as he did with the butler. Singer/actress Jackie Bayne, 26, who is currently touring country in the musical Some Like It Hot, watched with her fellow cast members. It was the culmination of a standing group ritual. “Because we’re usually on stage during prime time, someone tapes it in their hotel room for later,” she explains. “It’s a huge a priority when we’re travelling to a new city to get to the hotel and get the VCR hooked up in time for Joe Millionaire or American Idol. It’s so fun because you cannot believe these people actually exist.”

Fun. This is a word that comes up again and again when talking to reality TV junkies. Still, there must be more to the reality rush than having a laugh while watching Downtown Julie Brown get dipped in a tank of blood-sucking leeches. “There really is a certain level of human frailty to these shows that is genderless and colorless and classless,” remarks Tripoli. “We all do dumb, petty, cruel things in life, but we also rise to the occasion sometimes, like when the Survivors are rolling those giant balls down the hill and the smallest girl is the one who saves the team. That’s pretty exciting, man.”

“I like the fishbowl aspect of it,” says Leo. “You throw a bunch of people in together and see how they do. And knowing that they actually exist in real life makes you think, ‘This could be me. What would I do in that situation’?”

The short-term commitment of most reality shows also seems to be a key selling point. “I loved Joe Millionaire because I knew it was only 7 episodes,” says David Todd, 33, a media manager from Milwaukee, Wisconsin who is also heavy into American Idol; witness the key ring. “I could record every episode on one videotape.” And then there’s the delicious sense of closure that comes with watching a big, suspenseful reality show finale. “I’ll never forget the final Bachelorette,” vows Tripoli. “It made me wish I had a Jacuzzi because clearly everything good in life happens either right before or right after a good Jacuzzi.”

But probably the biggest allure, apart from being entertaining, is the water-cooler factor. Reality TV watchers love to rap about their shows almost as much as they love to watch them. “Everybody I worked with watched Joe Millionaire so I felt like I had to watch so I’d be able to discuss it,” says Raegan Hatch, 23, a high school cafeteria cook from Holbrook, Arizona. “The first time I watched, I put a note on my mirror to remind myself but after that, I didn’t need the note. I was hooked.”

And she’s not afraid to say it, right out loud. If there’s one quality that separates reality TV addicts from other types of addicts is that they’re long on opinions—“Trista’s baby talk totally got my nerves,” says Leo--and short on shame. “Maybe I should feel a little dumb but these shows are so fun,” says Blanks, “and because there are so many good shows on now, I’m spending less money going out, which is a good thing.”

“People say, ‘You own a bookstore. How can you watch that garbage’?” says Leo. “But they’ve said the same things about soap operas for years. It’s not the only thing I do in life, but it’s one of my favorite escapes.”

And it looks like it will be for sometime. A new crop of shows, including Married by America and The Family, are coming down the pike, body mic-ed and ready to feed our junkies’ joins for reality. “I can’t wait for The Front Line, about the soldiers in Afghanistan,” gushes Griffin, “but I hope they put a tent over the hot tub. We don’t want that thing becoming an enemy hot spot.”


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